Love is a team sport.

Couples coaching for partners who are ready to stop circling the same fight and actually get your needs met.

From who’s right to what we both want.

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Every relationship is actually a triad

There’s you. There’s your partner (or partners). And there’s the third thing you’ve created together: the relationship itself. The relationship has its own patterns, habits, and needs, separate from either of you.

One person changing how they show up can change the relationship. When you both change how you show up, the relationship changes faster and with less effort.

When you both change a pattern at the same time, like how you argue or how you ask for sex, things can get messier before they get better. You’re both learning new moves, and you’ll step on each other’s toes. That’s why ongoing sessions matter: I help you sort through the mess while you’re in it, so neither of you slides back into the old pattern.

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Less venting. More practicing.

Think of me like your basketball coach. (Yes, I have a whistle. Metaphorically.) A great coach breaks down your form, gives you drills designed for the result you want, and has you run them until the new skill becomes automatic.

That’s how I work with couples. You get actions and strategies designed to get you to your goal, and between sessions you practice new ways of talking, asking, and repairing with each other. In real life. At your actual kitchen table.

Therapy

A wonderful place to understand where your patterns come from and heal the old wounds behind them. Much of the work happens by talking through your feelings and history.

Coaching

Where you build new patterns. We set a clear goal, choose the skills that get you there (like asking for what you want or repairing after a fight), and you practice those skills at home, with feedback and accountability from me along the way.

We meet in the middle

Most couples walk in with a list of what the other person needs to change. “I need them to do X so I can feel Y.” That puts one of you on trial before we’ve even started.

So we start with a goal you both share, then work toward it together.

“I need my partner to be more respectful of my wants and needs.”
“We both want a connected, passionate, thriving relationship.”

From there, we map the steps to your shared goal: how you ask for what you want, how you repair after a fight, how you keep desire alive. You each work on your part of the pattern, and you both get what you came for.

Two ways to work together

One session

A 75-minute session for the two of you. Perfect for getting unstuck on one recurring fight or decision, or for seeing what coaching together feels like.

$400
  • One 75-minute Zoom session for both partners
  • A shared goal and clear next steps
  • Practices to take home and try together

Couples coaching

Four months, with a session every two weeks, to change the patterns that keep you stuck, like the fight you keep having or the gap between how much each of you wants sex.

$2,880 or $750/month for 4 months
  • 3 sessions together on Zoom, 75 minutes each
  • 3 individual sessions for each of you, 75 minutes each, so you both have space to work on your side of the pattern
  • Voxer support between sessions for real-time help and accountability
  • Somatic practices, communication tools, and strategies built around your shared goal

Ready to get what you both want?

Book one session to start, or commit to BIG change with four months of coaching.

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