Feeling insecure or jealous in relationships?
Jealousy
Alchemy
Join me for a live 2-hour workshop to turn jealousy, insecurity, and doubt into freedom, connection, intimacy, and a deeper way to love
An interactive workshop for people who want to love fully and without fear
You don't have to set endless boundaries or rules just to feel safe.
Learn how to build lasting security in yourself and in your relationship, so you can love BIG.
Jealousy is a natural emotional experience. When it's left to run rampant, it can hijack your nervous system, causing you to say and do things that feel awful. When you learn how to work with jealousy instead of against it, you can actually turn that raw energy into fuel for security and connection. I'll show you how!
You don't want to feel this way.
You know your partner loves you. But the second a jealousy trigger hits?
BOOM.Your nervous system hijacks your brain like a conspiracy theorist with a cork board and red string. You start questioning your relationship and your sanity:
"Why am I like this?"
No matter how much self reflection you pour into yourself, your stomach still drops. Your heart still pounds. Your body, apparently, didn't get the memo, even if logically you can say, "everything is fine."
When jealousy takes over, it tells you: if you can control the trigger, you'll be safe. So you ask your partner not to hang out with that hottie they met at work. Or you become hypervigilant of everything they heart on Instagram.
But triggers will always happen. You can't orchestrate scenarios where they won't happen. (And if you try, more and more threatening scenarios tend to pop up.)
What you can change is how you relate to a jealousy-inducing scenario. And you can actually shift the biological heart-racing, stomach-dropping response. You can change what comes out of your mouth after you've been triggered, and instead of inciting an argument that loops and loops, you can drive that ship into the calm waters of love, connection, intimacy and more.
In this workshop, I won't just give you helpful tips and reframes around jealousy.
You'll build your own personalized body-first protocol you can use the next time you're triggered.
By the end of the workshop, you'll be able to…
- Catch the trigger before it hijacks you
- Calm the biological response in real time
- Meet your Jealousy Gremlin
- Turn knee-jerk reactions into thoughtful, generative responses
- Receive the gift of jealousy (yeah, there's gold waiting for you to discover it!)
- Stop feeling ashamed about how you feel
What's included
- ✦The live 2-hour Jealousy Alchemy workshop
- ✦Your personalized Break Glass in Case of Jealousy plan
- ✦The Secure Love Playbook (100+ pages)
The full body-first system, included free with the workshop:- The Jealousy Blueprint & Gremlin work to map your pattern at the root
- Guided somatic practices & journal prompts
- Secure Communication Scripts for the conversations that usually spiral
- The "Break in Case of Jealousy" protocol for real-time regulation
- A Feeling & Sensing Quick-Reference Guide
- 30 Days of Secure Love Mantras
- The Secure Love Soundtrack — a curated playlist on Spotify
- ✦A repeatable practice you can run whenever a trigger hits
You'll come away knowing how to calm jealousy and anxiety in real time, interrupt the hyper-vigilance and overthinking spirals, and retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love.
"I already used the practice when getting triggered and it helped a lot. The way my body felt shifted and I pulled myself out of it. I'll keep growing that muscle."
"When I feel a strong emotion, instead of judging myself and thinking 'why am I feeling this,' I think, 'how can I care for myself?' That shift feels like a huge brain upgrade."
"You have a really beautiful way of synthesizing and articulating the power of incorporating new processes. I'm excited to try these out."
"This has been the most beneficial investment of time and intention — steady-paced and permanent impact."
This is for you if…
- You're self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and still getting blindsided by jealousy
- You feel like you should "be better" by now (this was my particular brand of shame!)
- You're tired of waging an internal (sometimes external) war when you get triggered
- You've tried the cognitive stuff and you can feel that something deeper – something body-level – hasn't been dealt with
- You want to love fully without the little voice whispering "but what if this ends?"
This is NOT for you if…
- This workshop is not for you if you still believe, "if my partner just… then I wouldn't feel jealous." You need to own that this is your experience of an emotion that gets triggered by external circumstances.
- You don't want to put in effort. I wish I could wave a magick wand and make jealousy go poof into the night… but it really doesn't work like that (boy oh boy have I tried). This workshop holds space to do the efforting together, and your post-workshop "work" can actually be fun.
My deep wish for you
I want you to love fully — without that voice whispering "what if I'm too much?"
Not because you became the "chill partner." Not because you eradicated every insecurity. But because you have a cache of real tools that bring you back to yourself every single time insecurity creeps in.
Triggers will still happen. Old fears will still pop up. But when they do, I want you to feel so damn confident in your ability to recenter and root back into security that jealousy and shame no longer run the show.
Let's do this together!
Hi, I'm Jess
M.A. · Master NLP Practitioner · Certified Sex & Relationship Coach
I'm a Neurosomatic Sex & Relationship Coach of mixed Lebanese-American heritage, living and working on the ancestral and unceded land of the Chochenyo-speaking Ohlone people.
I know this struggle personally. For years, jealousy dictated who I let myself be friends with, what I'd do, how much I micromanaged my relationship just to feel safe. The more I read and analyzed, the worse I felt.
Everything changed when I stopped fighting the jealousy and started working with it. That's the work I do now. I blend body-based practices with brain-rewiring techniques to shift jealousy, insecurity, and anxious attachment at the root so that security becomes your default.
My work is science-backed, pleasure-centered, and designed to feel good. Because healing doesn't have to be exhausting. It can even be, dare I say, fun.
"I've done years of talk therapy trying to improve my sense of security, but in just a few sessions [Jess] was able to teach me ways to access a sense of confidence, security, & self love I've always yearned for."
"For most of my life, I had been operating under fear, anxiety, and hyper-awareness. Slowly but surely (and much more immediately than expected), visualization is teaching my mind to create the outcome that feels right to me."
"I have a more secure relationship with myself and that has translated to having more secure relationships overall. I've been able to be more vulnerable with my partner, communicate more effectively, and experience the deepest, most profound love of my life."
Tuesday, July 14 · 10am–12pm PST · Live on Zoom
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